We have only just begun to tell people about Belalu, because we have only just found out ourselves. I don't really have a set way to bring it up, though many times people will say "She's getting so big!" and I'll laugh and say "funny you should say that..."
Thing is, this is shocking news. Yes, she had complications early on, so many people have been asking all along "is everything ok now?" And I was telling them "yes, it must have just been one of those things. She's totally fine and doing well." And now, the story has changed again.
So, people don't know what to say. I get it. Three weeks ago, I would have had no idea what to say to a friend in a similar situation. Almost everything, though, has been what I needed to hear, because I know it's coming from a good place. Besides some comments I won't even share because I'm sure they were from shock and resulted in temporary stupidity, the only thing that has rubbed me the wrong way is when people say Belalu "is perfect in her own way." It's the last four words that get me. Just stop at "perfect."
What I really don't want people to do is to assume how I feel about
Belalu's condition, and react "for me." I don't consider this bad news,
so please don't treat it as such. The best thing to do is to ask me how am I feeling, so you can react accordingly.
Technical questions are fine, too.