From the start, Essie has been so sweet to Belalu. J would describe him as a "mama's boy," and he was nursing up until two months before Belalu was born. The only reason he weaned then was because my pregnant body couldn't take it anymore, but we joke that when B is weaned, E will likely say "Hey, since she's done, can I get back on that?" Given his very strong attachment to me, we were worried about the effect of another sibling entering the picture. However, he's been an amazing, loving big brother all along.
I am very mindful of their relationship and try to foster one of loving
kindness between them. I think parents often unintentionally complicate
sibling relationships by promoting competitiveness and/or pigeonholing
children into divisive categories that can stick with them well into
adulthood and beyond the family dynamic.
I would love to know what other families do to promote a healthy relationship between siblings. It'd be great to hear other ideas/ techniques/ experiences.